Have you made your Spring-cleaning to-do list yet? Spring is the perfect time for rejuvenation—not just for your home, but also for the bond between you and your partner. So while you’re reminding yourself to deep clean the refrigerator and rain gutters, don’t forget about your relationship.
Why is Spring Cleaning Important for my Relationship?
Over time we tend to get comfortable in our relationships and develop behaviors that frustrate our partner and vice versa. It’s natural, but when these behaviors turn into reoccurring habits, they can put a strain on your connection. This is why it’s important to take time to communicate with your partner and ask, ‘Is there anything I can do to make you happier in this relationship?” Use this as a starting point to create your Spring-cleaning to-do list.
How Else Can I Spring Clean My Relationship?
It’s no secret that one of the biggest problems between couples is lack of communication. Another way to clean up the connection in your relationship is to communicate more effectively with your partner. If you have a problem—whether it’s big or small—just say it (in a calm tone of course.) I often find that passive aggressive behavior develops when expectations aren’t made.
One of the most common statements I hear is, “He/She should just know to do this.” But unfortunately, that’s not always the case. So for the health of your relationship, it’s important to opt for more open communication. Bottling up the fact that he/she never does something as small as washing the dishes can turn into a bigger argument than it needs to be. It’s much easier and more effective to have an open conversation about both of your expectations and work towards making one another happier.
It doesn’t have to be all serious and formulaic. Go somewhere quiet that makes you both comfortable, whether it’s your bathtub or a park and just start talking.
How Often Should We Spring-Clean Our Relationship
Spring-cleaning doesn’t have to happen once a year in your relationship. I recommend sitting down and having an in-depth and honest conversation about how you both are feeling in your relationship at least every season. People change over time and in order to grow with one another, rather than apart it’s essential to remain on the same page. You can talk about whatever is important to the both of you, whether it’s family, kids, vacation time, sex, trust, chores or date nights. And it doesn’t have to be all serious and formulaic. Go somewhere quiet that makes you both comfortable, whether it’s your bathtub or a park and just start talking.
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