How to stop comparing yourself to others

We’ve all heard that you shouldn’t compare yourself to others, but it’s so much easier said than done. Your job title, your income, grades, the neighborhood you live in, your size, what you wear, Instagram followers & Facebook likes- the number of things we can compare seems infinite.
Comparing your life to someone else’s is a sure way to be unhappy. But with mainstream society & the media constantly promoting specific images of perfection, beauty, and success, how can you not?

It may be difficult at first, but it is possible to not compare yourself to others. Listed below are a few simple ways and reasons to stop comparing yourself to others.

Accept What Is

You may not live where you’ve always dreamed of, you may not be at your ideal weight, you may not drive your dream car yet, or have the job you’ve always desired, but you can still be happy while still striving for more. Instead of resisting or fighting where you are, come to peace with it.

Be Your Own Friend

Don’t listen to that mean voice inside of your head that tells you that you aren’t enough. Challenge yourself to always counteract that mean voice. When you start hearing that voice saying you’re not good enough, remind yourself of how strong and resilient you are. Remind yourself of all the issues you’ve tackled in the past and how you came up on top! When that mean voice tells you that you’ve messed up again, rather than beating yourself up about it, remind yourself that no one’s perfect and that it’s ok to make mistakes. Stand up for yourself against that mean voice. Comfort and love yourself the way you would your best friend. Defend yourself and be your own friend. Even give yourself regular pep talks to stay motivated and encouraged.

Water Your Own Grass

Focusing on what other people have is wasting precious time. Instead, you could be spending time investing in yourself.
Create, spend time learning a new skill that you enjoy doing. Learn to nurture and care for yourself. It may seem as if your neighbor’s grass is greener, but as the saying goes, “The grass is greener where you water it.” focus on bettering yourself and your life will get better.

Accept Your Past

Your life may not have been perfect and you may have come across a few bumps in the road. But your life experiences helped to give you the perspective, wisdom, and the strength that you have today. Embrace your past, accept it, and respect it. Without it, you wouldn’t be who you are today.

Know That This Isn’t The End

If right now, you are not where you want to be in life, remember that this is not the end. Where you currently are doesn’t determine where you will be in the future. Have faith that things will improve and (as much as you can) put yourself in the position to receive what you’re looking for.

Be Thankful For What You Have

Even if you don’t have everything you want, there’s still a lot that you do have – a means of income, health, a family or friends that love you. When you focus on all the amazing things that you’re grateful for, you become less focused on what others have.


At CWC Coaching, our team consists of licensed therapists, life coaches, and counselors. We assist clients with self-improvement, career development, negative self-talk, psychological pain, self-sabotaging behavior, past hurts and finding your purpose. If you are ready to increase your self-awareness and happiness, breakthrough limiting behavior and understand your purpose in life, we’d love to help guide you on this journey.

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