“I put my foot in my mouth.”
“We got our wires crossed.”
“I heard through the grapevine….”
You certainly don’t want these phrases being said consistently throughout your relationship. Believe it or not, it can actually make or break your relationship. Constant miscommunication or lack of communication can make room for bitterness, confusion and resentment to enter your relationship. Not the type of words you want associated with you and your partner right?
Poor communication is the reason why a simple argument about taking out the trash can escalate to months spent on a friend’s couch. From dating to marriage, effective communication is essential through every aspect your relationship. And since we all have varied experiences and personalities, our communication habits can affect our relationship without us realizing.
With these three communication techniques, even a couple that argues every other night can become one unit again.
Location, Location, Location
His company’s anniversary party is not the time to address why he liked another woman’s picture on Instagram. This scenario is more common than you’d think. Choose your battlegrounds wisely to avoid an argument from escalating further than it should. Your relationship is between you and your partner.
No good can come from airing your personal grievances to your coworkers or family members. It’s also wise to refrain from bringing up an issue before heading out to a public event. It sets the tone for the entire night and no matter how much you both try to smile through it, others can pick up on the tension.
Words can bite and sometimes we can take really big chunks out of the people closest to us
R-E-S-P-E-C-T, Find Out What it Means to Me
It means a lot to your partner. Words can bite and sometimes we can take really big chunks out of the people closest to us, especially when they’ve hurt us. We understand emotions can take over during an argument, but it’s important to remember that you are in control of yourself. Try to remember that this is the love of your life you are speaking to—the person you’ve chosen to devote yourself to.
During arguments, try to tame your emotions, so you don’t say anything in the moment that will leave a lasting effect on your relationship. There’s nothing wrong with asking for a few minutes to step away and resume a more calm discussion later.
One Discussion at a Time
You may think throwing in more ways your partner has annoyed you the past helps you ‘win’ an argument, but it just raises frustration. If you have an issue—whether minor or major—it’s always best to address it and move forward. It doesn’t help either of you in your relationship if you aren’t being honest about your feelings.
If a problem from three weeks ago still bothers you, choose a calm moment to privately address it and try to work through it together. If you’re still having a hard time moving on, consider having a discussion about seeking help through couples therapy.
Becoming a happier couple starts with becoming a happier individual. Positive affirmations can help you achieve whatever goals you have for your character, career and relationship.
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