The honeymoon stage of your relationship is filled with constant text messages, date nights galore and your new interest never seems to leave your mind. This is pretty normal and should not be mistaken for codependency. You both are just excited to get to know one another and enjoy each other’s presence.
Codependent relationships can be identified in two ways:
- When one person seeks the approval of their partner to feel valuable.
- When two people with unhealthy traits or habits become worse
Both of these definitions lack a sense of individuality because one or both people in the relationship are too dependent on the other for unhealthy reasons. There are several signs of codependency depending on what an individual is lacking in their life. There can also be a strong sense of control in the relationship that leads one person to feel as if they can’t function or won’t be as good without the other person. Let’s take a look at a few of the more prominent signs that indicate codependency in relationships.
Signs of Codependency
- Substance Abuse: A husband/wife enabling alcoholism
- Physical/Emotional/Verbal Abuse: A husband/wife struggling to leave an abusive relationship
- Fear of loneliness if you leave a relationship
- Staying together for reasons other than love, like children or finances
- Sacrificing your happiness/needs for your partner’s
- Inability to say ‘no’ to your partner
- A feeling of entrapment in a relationship
- Your self-worth depends on how your partner feels or thinks about you
- Lacking identity without the other person around
- Not being able to temporarily part with your significant other (girl/guys night, work trips, etc.)
How to Stop Codependency
Before you can fix a problem, you need to identify where it lies. Think about when you’re having these emotions of codependency and what triggers it. Different events in your childhood or early adulthood can set you up for codependency in friendships and romantic relationship later on in your life. Identifying these experiences can help you to take the steps you need to heal and feel more secure in yourself as an individual.
In order to do so, I would strongly encourage the help of a mental health professional. A therapist can help guide you through your thoughts and emotions and pinpoint the root of your codependency. This will help you know exactly what you and your partner need to do to get rid of codependency in your relationship.
Going through a rough patch in your relationship that seems like it’s never going to end? These tips should help you both see the light at the end of the tunnel.
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