If we’ve ever shared a conversation in my office, you know that I am a strong believer in the power of self-care. Making your happiness and well being a priority can help you in every aspect of your life. Your career, health, family, relationships can all benefit from you taking care of you and knowing that it’s okay to put yourself first at times.
Society has given the notion for years that self-care is selfish. Actually, it’s the opposite. Self-care puts you in a good mood and makes you an overall happier person in life. You can take care of your health, feel fulfilled in life, and enjoy your passion. All of this affects the strength of your relationship.
Happy wife, happy life? This is true for both husbands and wives, and here’s how:
Develop a Hobby
If you had one before you met the love of your life, get back into it. You’re happy when you’re engaging in what makes you happy. Whether you love bowling, swimming or writing, it’s important not to lose sight of yourself. This will help you avoid making the statement, “I used to love….” Be the person your significant other fell in love with and continue to pursue your passions. This also gives you and your partner your necessary ‘me time,’ and when you both come back together, you have even more to talk about.
Your personal goals should not be ignored or replaced by the ones you make as a couple.
Setting goals isn’t often recognized as a self-care act, but it sure is! Goal setting can help you identify the things you want to achieve in life. It’s a form of exercising positive affirmations and makes you work toward being your best self. Setting goals with and without your partner is important. You both can come to an understanding of what you’d like to have in the future and the type of couple you’d like to be moving forward and work towards achieving those goals. Your personal goals should not be ignored or replaced by the ones you make together. Think about your career, who you want to be as a person, what you’d like to do as an individual, and create a plan to attract those things into your life. You’re not only enhancing your life for yourself, but the people around you get to enjoy a happier person who feels fulfilled with his/her life.
Take Care of Yourself
Your health affects your relationship, whether it’s physical or mental. By taking care of your body, you are able to give your partner the best of you. Maintaining a healthy diet, working out and staying active are all ways to increase your mood. We all have off days when we’re not feeling the positivity, but those days can decrease when your body is taken care of. Remember to attend regular physicals and of course, make sure your mind is a part of your health regimen.
Mental and emotional health should be just as much a priority as your physical health. If you find yourself feeling sad, or you’ve been lashing out lately, or just don’t feel like yourself, it’s important that you identify the cause of these emotions. If you’ve been dealing with certain problems in your life for years, this is also something that should be addressed for your health and the survival of your relationship. It’s important for you to see a mental health professional in order to understand the source of your emotions and mental state, in order to start your healing process.
These are just a few self-care acts that are often looked over. But there are endless things that you can do to take care of yourself, which will also help your relationship. We have a list of affordable and convenient self-care acts that will make it easy to put you first.
At CWC Coaching, our team consists of licensed therapists, life coaches, and counselors. We assist clients with self-improvement, career development, negative self-talk, psychological pain, self-sabotaging behavior, past hurts and finding your purpose.
If you are ready to increase your self-awareness and happiness, breakthrough limiting behavior and understand your purpose in life, we’d love to help guide you on this journey.